Is Unconditional Love God's Will?

Question:

"It is so easy for me to sit and pray for some people that I believe are good inside, but have just made an outer mistake, but when it comes to someone with disrespect to the Guru and the community and all what others have revealed about them, I honestly find it hard to pray for them except to call for their awaking. I have always thought about some individuals and how fortunate they were to have such loving and wise parents to teach them all that they needed to lead a God-centered life and I wonder how they can turn away from that love. I am not judging them in any way, but honestly trying to understand the role of a Christed being when it comes to these matters. So I am asking myself, do I need to pray for certain individuals who have shown this disrespect and arrogance as well, knowing that they are in a dark place of their own free will?"

You have touched upon a very sensitive and important lesson for us all. The question is, "How do we love someone unconditionally who appears to have no love within them?" Or love unconditionally a child molester or a murderer of children, etc? God in us is capable of this love. We only have to Be God and let unfold that Being to understand His Love.

God put into my hands many books to read on just such a way to love unconditionally and to find a way to let go of my fears and conditions in loving those who might harm us. The first story I remember was about a Polish priest who was imprisoned. Before he was captured, he would see the spies constantly watching him. And one very cold night he saw one outside across the street watching his house. So he went down and brought him a hot cup of coffee! Other stories came into my hands about other political prisoners and how they loved their guards and managed to stay pure and loving during their imprisonments. Was this God's unconditional love in action?

I soon was led to near-death experience stories and how after returning from their inner experiences they felt this unconditional love for everyone. After their spirits went on into heaven and they felt God indescribable love, they realized the most important thing for them to do and be was this love. Most explain this feeling of a love beyond this world and how loved they felt, even after receiving life reviews showing ungodly acts they had committed towards other parts of life. Everywhere and in everything they could only see love. After returning to their lives they could not forget this love. They only wanted to be it and share it with all. Their families usually felt very unloved and thought the new "loving person" was cold and so unlike their former selves. People of the world expect conditional love and they don't feel loved unless you pine over them, or fuss over them or do any number of caring things from the place of conditionally giving.

For many returning from near-death experiences, they fell into the mode of loving everyone unconditionally, even their family members were loved the same way they loved transgressors of God's Laws. No wonder their families felt unloved! Is God's Love the same for all of us, wherever we are in the tiers of God's Being? Does he love an angel the same way he loves a fish? Does he love man and the soul and spirit within the same way he loves an angel?

Many years ago I was given by my husband a book called "Creating Miracles" by Carolyn Miller. I loved that book and so I lent that book to many who came to my healing practice. I recommended that book to most everyone I felt was open to coming up higher in healing their emotional bodies. I felt that it held many keys to understanding how to love the most unlovable people in the world. And how you can Be, in any moment, God's pure love when you let His light shine through you. The book is a compilation of miracle stories. Some of the stores were about individuals who found themselves about to be compromised in physical safety through robbery, rape or bad intentions. The stories tell how divine love would enter their beings and cause them to only feel compassion for their potential attacker, oftentimes thwarting physical harm to their person by the aggressors.

The aggressors would sometimes break down into a loving being themselves. Sometimes they would continue the harmful act, but not culminating in possibly the worst final result, being killed. Sometimes people were just disarmed, as they didn't know how to respond to love versus the response they knew when someone was in fear, which would often feed their aggression.

But were their any stories in the book of those who loved their aggressors and were harmed or killed anyway? Not in this book, all the stories were from people who were still alive! But you only need go to the first story I mentioned of the Polish priest, Rev. Jerzy Popieluszko, who loved everyone but eventually he was murdered, to know that his unconditional love did not stop the aggressor or the horrific end to his life. His mutilated, tortured body was found in a river three days after his was kidnapped. In fact, you only have to read about his life to see that although this man was a beautiful, sacrificial being, he had little respect or love for himself, to the detriment of his own well-Being. Therefore, did he not have conditions on love in that he could love everyone else but himself?

I know this love and potential for Being Unconditional Love was very real. And I felt that book and many other stories and books that came into my life at that time were meant to raise me to a higher level of understanding Divine Love. What drew me to love these stories in "Creating Miracles" was the power of God that overcame the potential victims. They did not sit down and choose to love their aggressors. They usually started off in some fear and concern. But the astounding message from most of these stories was how time and again, this light, peace and compassion would overcome them until all they could do was Be love. Being overtook them and through Being they knew exactly what to say, to express, to feel or to act or not act. And they were saved by that mercy and grace that came upon them and through them.

How can we love people who have espoused their lives to doing evil and hating God? Can anyone but God love unconditionally? And what is unconditional love anyway?

First, we have to separate people from their acts. Ask any victim of sexual child abuse do they love their molester, and sometimes they will say yes, and other times they will say no, they have great fear of that molester, or they even hate that person. And many times there is no will or desire to forgive that person. That was one of my early lessons on the path, and it was with my mother and learning to forgive her, yet move on.

I separated out from my physical mother some seven years ago, never to speak or see her again. After a particular incident and abuse to my person by her, my adult being finally said I had had enough. Why was I trying so hard to have a relationship with mother when I could feel no love or support for my Being? In fact, I questioned myself, did she ever love me? And I got back my answer, "No. She was incapable of love." I the heard through my heart, from the Master, the Great Divine Director, that you "love the person, but not the act". Those words were so liberating to me. I could free myself from her acts and continue to love her person. I saw that years and years of these acts towards me and others were not changing for the better, and something that I chose not to associate with anymore. I could love my mother, but I chose to love my mother from a distance.

Today I do not miss her. I rarely think of her because we have lived thousands of miles apart for a long time. I have no desire to be with her again, although I would if she could open up her heart and start communicating from that place. But I do love her unconditionally. It is hard to explain. There is compassion for her, caught in her own personal hell. I would love to see her free and the potential for the God in her to come out. She is not an evil person, not at all. She is just not real and full of fears and selfish acts. It does not appear that she has any Christ love or discernment or to pursue the spiritual side of life. She does not know how to love and give love, having parents that didn't seem to know how to love either. And she was an only child and was quite spoiled and learned how life was centered around her. So when she had four children and a husband who could not properly provide for her, both materially and emotionally, she only grew more dissatisfied, selfish and possessive of what she did have. Therefore, I never received any love from her and it was easy to not choose to be with her anymore. There was nothing I was missing that had enriched my life, although I am eternally grateful she gave me life, however much she didn't want to be pregnant or have any more children.

I have therefore set her free and in the process me free. I can love her as she is, holding the immaculate concept that she is more than her acts. But I also choose not to associate with a person who acts in this way and takes my energies away from Being. I feel nothing but love for her. But I love myself and God too much to just "make" a relationship keep on going to placate the world's opinions of how we should love our family and want to be with them. Many times our conversations were always about other people and what they had done and gossiping energies. I almost hated picking up the phone and talking with her. She had no other interesting things to talk about, like how she or others overcame challenges, helped someone or created something beautiful. If I changed the subject on some positive things in life, she had no co-measurement to talk back to me. There was no upliftment in me or that I could do for her to make a nurturing relationship.

Many today in New Age circles and in Buddhist communities, process an unconditional love for everyone. No matter what someone does, or what you do to them or they do to you, all is okay, they just love you unconditionally. This is a perversion of this pure love from God that I am talking about here. That unconditionality is often spoken by people who have no real capability to love another. They profess to love another through their minds, but their heart is not engaged. They say they love another because they know that is the right thing to do. But they don't walk the talk and act from a place of love. They believe that love is "kindness" and they actually place conditions on what love is. And if you do not fit in their conditions of love, they will actually judge you that you are not good enough in your ability to love. They will judge you as heartless if you dare to go outside their mental boxes of what love is and express love from Being.

Humanistic psychologist, Carl Rogers, actually coined the term, "unconditional positive regard" back in the 1950's. He moved from the field of theology to psychology and became a highly influential person in the field of human relationships. He said that unconditional positive regard is the complete, unqualified acceptance of another person as he or she is, but you would still accept and love that person regardless. You may disapprove of someone's actions or intentions, but you still accept and love them. It was from humanistic psychology that the popular term to describe God's love has become unconditional love. The thrust of this word in humanistic psychology has been both to give and to expect unconditional love from one another without attachments. While unconditional love and acceptance supposedly promote change and growth, they make no requirements. But God, who is love, requires change and enables his children to grow in righteousness.

What does the Bible say about unconditional love?

Hosea was a prophet who lived and prophesied just before the destruction of Israel in 722 BC. He preached to the northern kingdom. He tells his story of how God commanded his life as an unfolding story book to the Israelites who were turning to the gods of the Canaanite and Baal. God said through the prophet:

Every evil of theirs is in Gilgal; there I began to hate them. Because of the wickedness of their deeds I will drive them out of my house. I will love them no more; all their princes are rebels. Hosea 9:15

During Hosea's lifetime, the kings of the Northern Kingdom, their aristocratic supporters, and the priests had led the people away from the Laws of God. Their sins included homicide, perjury, theft, and sexual sin. Hosea declares that unless they repent of these sins, God will allow their nation to be destroyed, and the people taken into captivity. Assyria did capture Samaria, the capital of the Northern Kingdom, in 722 BC. All the members of the upper classes and many of the ordinary people were taken captive and carried off to live as prisoners of war.

The primary theme of the Book of Hosea is that God loves Israel, just as a Hosea loves his wife. This is shown by the extended metaphor of Hosea's own marriage and his casting his wife out for adultery. In conjunction with that theme are the twin themes of Israel's sin and the coming retribution. Although God loves Israel, Israel has not returned His love. This has been shown by the continued idolatry and acts of violence, oppression, and sexual sin among the people. Because Israel has not returned God's love, He will put them away from Him, just as Hosea did his wife, and send them into exile.

The New Testament speaks about loving those who persecute you. It is usually no problem to love those who love you. But the Bible does not say how that love is expressed, except that we are to turn away from hate and forgive those transgressors seventy times seven. But there are a few passages that give us other glimpses of God's love. In John we learn that if we keep the commandments of the Son we are showing that we love the Son and thus the Father and we will be loved by the Father. But what if we don't keep the commandments? Does that mean that we won't be loved by the Father?

Whoever has my commandments and keeps them, he it is who loves me. And he who loves me will be loved by my Father, and I will love him and manifest myself to him.” John 14:21

This passage and many others suggest that God's love is conditional, but not in a human sense. When humans place conditions on loving another, they use love to get something they want. We are admonished not to love evil, or to love those who espouse evil. That is not withholding love to get something we want, but out of the love of God that we obey His Will and Direction, and thereby not give power to the embodied godless who will use that power (love) to hurt God in another.

Scripture warns that it is possible to so presume upon, abuse, and reject God's love that we exhaust His grace and mercy. God is long suffering, but His patience does have limits. I understand those limits to be love in and of itself. All is love in God, just different expressions of it. But ultimately, when God says enough is enough, your time to choose love is no more, because you are no More. Now I will give you one last choice in the fires of annihilation to all unlike Itself, to Be me, that I AM. If that being still chooses to not bend the knee to the Almighty as the Supreme Being that IS, in loving adoration of all that I AM, it is then that the all-consuming love, the ruby fire of God's love that is so powerful, literally consumes that which is unlike Itself. All returns back to God and the being that was once God but chose to turn away from God, is now returned to the Heart of God by God's Heart of Love, which is a consuming Fire, I AM THAT I AM.

The story of the prodigal son (Luke 15:11) is the story of the son who leaves the father and squanders his inheritance. When he is broke he decides to come home and seek mercy from his father. His father sees him coming and throws a party to rejoice at his homecoming. The key here is mercy and grace. Up to a point, this story seems to indicate unconditional love of the father to accept anything his son does. But this is not the case. His father does not go looking for him. He does not accept that his son could do anything he wanted and his mercy would extend to him. The mercy of the father was upon his son who had repented of his sins and sought out the mercy of the father. It was this repentance and coming back to the heart of the father that was celebrated. God's mercy will be extended again and again until the day when no more mercy will be given because God can say at any time, "Your day is done!" And call that being home to His heart when no mercy or grace is left in that one for any other part of life.

This is what confuses God-loving people. We want to be like God, like Jesus, and love others without conditions of how they should love or respond back to us or others. But on the other hand, we do not feel that loving a murderer entails that we give them the same type of love that we give an innocent child. You can conjure up the picture very quickly in your mind, where you see yourself loving a child who innocently hits another child. It does not know that this is a harmful act or the unkind thing to do to another. But you sense that if you enlighten this child to the reason hitting is harmful to others, and to themselves in the long run, they will learn to love others and treat them kindly. You love that child with the love of compassion, understanding, and forgiveness. And it is easy not to judge the child as right or wrong in its actions, but as a child of God that is learning to make right choices.

But when a child is grown and still hits another, harms or kills another person, we don't forgive so easily. We see that after years and years of potentially learning that negative actions reap negative rewards, that a child of God would no longer continue to choose to harm others. Do we love that adult murderer in the same way we love and forgive the young child? No, we place conditions upon our love. We know that this adult is choosing willfully to do wrong to other parts of life, either because it is incapable of love, heartless or has filled its being with dark forces that hate through it. Therefore, we have to summon up the will to forgive the transgressor and choose to love them because it does not come naturally through our attachments to right and wrong, pain and hurt.. We are often attached to their acts, either because they are harming us, or a loved one, or we care very much feeling the pain of what happened to others. And therefore we can more easily feel compassion for the victim of this harm than the transgressor.

The New Age and Buddhist philosophy propose that we must love this murderer unconditionally. But God does not ask us to do so. God asks us to Be. And He asks us to love as He does. What do the ascended masters say about God's love?

The spiral of love and love's ray is expressed as charity, compassion, mercy, justice, forgiveness, chastening, purest love, and the Holy Spirit as the highest manifestation of love which is the dissolution by love's purest, wisest judgment of all that is anti-love. Lady Master Nada

Beloved Jesus through his messenger of the Summit Lighthouse said:

"Therefore make haste to merge with your Holy Christ Self in a point of unconditional Love and unconditional surrender. Mortals speak about unconditional love among humans. They know not whereof they speak.

Should the Love of God, which is the gift to your heart, continue to be given to anyone, no matter how close the tie, if that one suddenly betrays the Love of God, the worship of God, the defense of God and the Community?

However painful the process, beloved, even among families, it must be understood that I came “not to send peace but a sword” * to divide the Real from the Unreal. Therefore the loyalty must be to Love and to Divine Love and to those who embody it as an expression of their obedience to God's will.

I have said before and I say it again, “Who are my mother and brothers and sisters? Who is my father?” Those who do the will of God. (Luke 13:24) Not human ties but the bonds of the Infinite One establish the Diamond Heart of Community." **

Jesus said the Masters do not love us unconditionally.

"Beloved ones, there is no such thing as unconditional love on the part of the Ascended Masters for the children of earth, for this would be an impossibility. Since to love a man is to love his character and his actions, we would have to love those of murderous intent, those who are of the Darkness and the left-handed path, who love not the Light, for their deeds are evil. We would have to love man's infamy against man and to love brother who slays brother.

Just as Cain was rejected by the Lord Maitreya for his sin, so he would have been accepted had his offering been acceptable. Nevertheless, to love the point of Light within the heart, the point of Light that is God, is to love the seed potential. Yet if a man himself love not his potential for being in God, he will not bear the fruit of God consciousness. Wherefore Jesus cursed the barren fig tree and John the Baptist laid the axe at the root of the evil fruit saying, “Every tree which bringeth not forth good fruit is hewn down and cast into the fire.” ***

And the Buddha himself that the masters love is it is not conditioned but it is not unconditional.

"O give [that sense of guilt] to me this day! For our Lighthouse of Love is intact and that Love is surely unconditioned. It cannot be conditioned but it is not unconditional, beloved. It is unconditioned by the human consciousness. Yet it comes by merit and that Love always is the sword of discrimination." Gautama Buddha ****

The incomprehensible magnitude of God's love surpasses any concept of love devised by humanistic psychologists, or those of any New Age philosophy or Buddhist misconceptions of Life and Being. The doctrine of unconditional love is a myth that glorifies man rather than God.

To one who is caught in negative spirals of darkness and whom we receive from within is not to receive our love that is God's love, this prayer may be offered for them.

Beloved Father-Mother God, I pray for the release of (name the person/persons) from this darkness and that God's will be done. I send them forgiveness for anything they have done, be it to me or another, that has harmed some part of life. But I do not have to forgive their act of discretion. Thereby, I forgive them but not their act against God in me or God in anyone. I call upon the angels of love, mercy and forgiveness to tutor this person in The Way. I call upon the the mighty Seraphim of God, to bring the fires of Being to free this soul from anything less than God Being. I call upon the angels of Ruby Fire to bring the fires of judgment upon this soul, that they may choose this day whom they will serve. It is done, according to God's Will.

Then see God in that person. Hold the immaculate concept that they will rise to the full potential of their Being I AM. Remember to give gratitude every day for all God has given you in mercy, compassion and the all-seeing eye of Divine Vision to know and recognize evil, while seeing God in all.

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**Vol. 33 No. 18 - Beloved Jesus Christ - May 13, 1990

***Vol. 36 No. 26 - Beloved Jesus Christ - June 27, 1993

****Vol. 34 No. 52 - Beloved Gautama Buddha - October 27, 1991